Sextortion: “Pay or I'll send it to your friends”
In short
After an intimate photo or video exchange, the person threatens to send it to your friends, family or employer unless you pay. Paying rarely ends it - it usually leads to more demands. You're not alone and you're not at fault: stop replying, keep the evidence and get help.
How it usually goes
- Fast flirting and a push to exchange photos or move to a video call elsewhere.
- Screenshots of your friends list or contacts appear.
- A demand with a deadline: pay or everything gets shared.
- After a payment, a bigger demand.
Signs to spot
- Stop Threatens to send your photos or chats to your friends or family
What the messages look like
i recorded you. pay or i'll send it to your friends and family, you have 2 hours
Typical wording used by scammers on dating apps and messengers.
What to do
- Stop replying and don't pay - payment usually leads to more demands.
- Screenshot the threats and the profile, then block and report.
- Report to the police; many countries also have helplines for image-based abuse.
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