The meetup trap: when a date is a setup
In short
A match arranges to meet, then pushes for a quiet or remote spot or changes the place at the last minute. On arrival, other people are waiting - the goal is robbery or extortion. In Brazil, for example, police and media report such setups starting on dating apps.
How it usually goes
- Quick agreement to meet - often the same day.
- A remote address, “my friend's place”, or a pickup in an unfamiliar area.
- A last-minute change of place.
- Others waiting at the spot - robbery, forced transfers or blackmail.
Signs to spot
- Insists on a quiet, remote spot or changes the place at the last minute
What the messages look like
let's not do the bar, come to this address instead, it's quieter
change of plans, meet me near the old parking lot, i'll come out
Typical wording used by scammers on dating apps and messengers.
What to do
- Ask for a voice message before meeting.
- Meet the first time somewhere busy that you choose, and travel there on your own.
- Tell a friend where you're going; if the place changes to somewhere remote, don't go.
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