Flava's turn-on tags (kinks, fantasies and preferences) let you express exactly what excites you — from kisses and sapiosexuality to dirty talk, bondage, roleplay and tantra. Beyond helping you find compatible matches, your tag choices say a lot about your dating personality.
We analyzed millions of kink and fantasy selections across our user base to find patterns. Here's what we discovered.
The Adventurer
If your tags include public places, a chance encounter, peeking at others and 3some, you're what we call the Adventurer. You're drawn to novelty and spontaneity. For you, a great date isn't just about the person — it's about the experience.
Adventurers match best with other adventurers and with people who tag "spontaneous meetups" in their Looking-for section. You thrive when the plan is "let's see what happens."
The Sensualist
Tags like kisses, neck kisses, massage, scents, wax play, ice play, boudoir and tantra point to someone who experiences connection through physical sensation. You value touch, closeness, and the details that make an encounter memorable.
Sensualists tend to have longer conversations before meeting — they want to build anticipation. When they do meet, the connection is often immediate and intense.
The Intellectual
Sapiosexuality, deep conversations, texting and anime as turn-ons — you're turned on by what's between the ears. Dirty talk often shows up here too: fantasy and language matter just as much as touch. For you, a great opening message matters more than a perfect photo.
Intellectuals are the most likely to use Poke, because they have something specific to say. Their match rate through Poke is 12× higher than average — the highest of any dating style.
The Roleplay Player
Roleplay, domination, submission, bondage, blindfold, choking, hair pulling, sensory play, mirror play, party games — if 3-4 of these kinks show up in your list, you're a Player. You're turned on by structure: agreed rules, roles negotiated in advance, a clear context where you can give up control (or take it).
Players are most likely to spell out exactly what works for them in the first messages — and they love when a match does the same. Consent and clarity in kink practice aren't formalities; they're part of the heat.
The Social Butterfly
Dance, music, party games, biting, spanking, going down, devices — your tags paint a picture of someone who comes alive in social settings and lives in the moment. You're energized by group dynamics and shared experiences.
Social Butterflies are the most active users on Flava, with the highest daily open rates and the longest streaks. They're also the most likely to use Explorer Mode to find matches while traveling.
How Turn-Ons Power Flava's Matching
Turn-on tags aren't just labels — they're a core part of how Flava connects you with compatible people. When you select your Turn-ons during profile setup, those tags become visible on your profile card. Anyone browsing your profile sees exactly what excites you, which gives them a reason to swipe right (or send a Poke) based on genuine compatibility, not just photos.
Behind the scenes, shared Turn-ons directly increase your match probability. Flava's matching algorithm weighs overlapping tags heavily — if two people both select "sapiosexuality" and "deep conversations," they're far more likely to appear in each other's discovery feeds. The more overlap, the higher you rank for each other. This is what separates Flava from apps that match purely on location and swiping speed.
You can browse all of Flava's discovery and matching tools on the features page. The algorithm also considers your Looking-for preferences and verification status, but Turn-ons carry the most weight because they reflect what genuinely excites you — not just logistics like distance or age range.
One thing worth knowing: your Turn-on tags are public by default, but you control which ones appear on your profile card. If there are tags you want to use for matching purposes but don't want displayed openly, you can adjust visibility in your profile settings. Flava takes your privacy seriously — read more about staying safe while expressing yourself on the app.
Beyond Tags: Other Ways to Express Yourself
Turn-ons are powerful, but they're one piece of a bigger picture. Your Looking-for tags tell potential matches what kind of connection you want — whether that's casual dates, long-term relationships, or just someone to grab coffee with. These tags work alongside your Turn-ons to paint a fuller picture of who you are and what you're after.
Your lifestyle photos matter too. The best profiles combine clear Turn-on tags with photos that back them up. If you tag "travel" and "adventure," a photo from your last trip says more than any bio could. Your bio itself is another opportunity — a few lines about your personality, humor, or what you're looking for right now gives people the context they need to send a meaningful first message.
Together, these elements create a profile that attracts the right people instead of just more people. Quality over quantity is the whole point.
What does your profile say?
Open Flava and take a look at your Turn-ons. What story do they tell? And more importantly — are they attracting the kind of people you actually want to meet? Sometimes updating your tags is all it takes to completely change your matching experience.
Frequently Asked Questions
What are kinks, fantasies and turn-ons on Flava?
They're profile tags that show what excites you, what kind of chemistry you're after, and who matches your vibe. They cover everything from kisses and massage to bondage, roleplay, dirty talk and tantra.
What kinks and fantasies are in the Flava app?
The catalog currently has 30 tags: kisses, neck kisses, spanking, massage, dirty talk, sapiosexuality, biting, going down, public places, devices, texting, party games, scents, choking, wax play, ice play, boudoir, hair pulling, anime, 3some, domination, submission, a chance encounter, roleplay, peeking at others, tantra, bondage, blindfold, sensory play, mirror play.
Do Turn-on tags affect matching?
Yes. Shared kinks and fantasies help Flava understand compatibility beyond photos and distance. Profiles with clearer tags give other people more reasons to swipe right or send a Poke.
How many Turn-ons should I add?
Add enough to make your profile specific without turning it into a checklist. Four or more thoughtful tags usually gives matches a clearer picture of your dating style.
Can I hide some Turn-ons from my profile?
Yes. You can use Turn-ons to improve matching while controlling which tags appear publicly on your profile card.
